How To Relax And A DIY Body Butter
It occurred to me the other day as I was watching Friends on Netflix as a means of relaxing after a stressful day, that I was not actually relaxing. All the stress of my day had not dissipated, but was lingering under a heavy blanket of distraction. Don't get me wrong, there's a time for binge-ing Netflix. But in order to truly relax I needed to be in the present moment. Sans social media and late 90's sitcoms.
I used to relax pretty effortlessly. I would light incense, put on a guided meditation, listen to music, dance in my room, go on walks. The day it stopped being so natural for me to relax was the day I got an iPhone. Suddenly I had other things to do to distract from stress.
To actually bring yourself peace, you have to put in effort. Maybe it's driving to a yoga class, playing an instrument, meditating, taking a bath, or listening to a Tara Brach podcast (!) We all have an activity that focuses us in the present moment and brings us a sense of peace.
And it's important to realize that being entertained endlessly by the constant stream of new information in the internet world will most likely not bring us peace. We must occasionally step away from these pleasures in order to de-stress.
For me that means running a bath, listening to Joni Mitchell and/or the Pride and Prejudice soundtrack, and lighting my favorite candle in the world (Bath and Body Works Marshmallow Fireside). Post bath, I slather myself in body butter because we all know that moisturizing is the best possible form of self-care.
Hence, the following recipe, and the reason you probably clicked on this post in the first place.
This is without a doubt the best body butter you'll ever use and is all natural. I usually steer clear of anything that starts with the letters "DIY," but this is worth the effort. I got the recipe from Wellness Mama and altered it slightly.
1 cup Shea Butter
1/2 cup Coconut Oil
1/2 cup Grapeseed Oil (or another light oil)
10-30 drops of essential oil
1. Melt the shea butter, coconut oil, and grapeseed oil in a glass bowl over boiling water
2. Let cool for 5 minutes, and add essential oils. Use more if you want the body butter to have any fragrance. I used 25 drops of lavender but the overwhelming scent is more "health food store" than lavender. Doesn't bother me.
3. Let it cool in the fridge for about an hour until it's partially hardened.
4. Whip with a kitchen aid or hand mixer for 10 minutes, until it's light and fluffy.
5. Transfer to glass jars and set for another 10 minutes in the fridge.
The consistency is whipped but melts into a delicious creamy oil when warmed between the fingers. You only need a tiny bit to cover your whole body, it melts almost instantly into the skin and is so ultra moisturizing that I actually feel inclined to use it every day. Unlike any other lotion or body butter I've owned, which have all been relegated to the dark, sad corners of my cabinet.